Life got crazy about March-ish when my mother-in-law's cancer took a drastic turn for the worse. Maybe it wasn't her cancer. Maybe she just decided she'd had enough. I could hardly blame her. She'd been doing chemo for a year, lost all her dreams of teaching and getting her Master's degree. I spent 2 weeks with her trying to figure out what to do and who to ask for help. I came back home only to have Robert take my place a week later. We went back and forth for several months, never accomplishing much because of persons and circumstances beyond our control.
Then, my favoritest cousin, Margaret, got engaged to my nother little brother and plans were set for wedding fever. I began a project for their gift (a scrapbook wedding album which I'm still working on, just gotta find the right pics then I'll mail it back!!!) As it turned out, their wedding, which was planned for May 3rd was moved up to April 19th.
My Aunt, Margaret's mom was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. Many tears were shed and still are. Aunt Yvonne was an amazing person. She loved unconditionally and made sure everyone knew how special they are. The wedding was moved up so Aunt Yvonne would be able to attend. It turned out that she did make it through the ceremony and a bunch of pictures afterwards. She made it almost 2 more weeks, much to everyone's supprise. Aunt Yvonne passed away the morning of May 7th, the day after my birthday.
Once again, Robert headed down to his mom's and the kids and I went to my Aunt's funeral. One of the most peaceful and love filled funerals I have ever attended.
The kids and I left for home and stopped in Logan to see grandma. Robert and I told the kids that this would be the last time they would see her in this life. Grandma was in the hospital and decided to go off all artificial nutrition and respiratory whatever that was keeping her here. Though she kept the morphine! smart lady! The kids played a few games with her, talked and joked. They told her how much they love her and even sang her "I love to see the temple". They kissed and hugged her and we went home.
The following Saturday morning (May 17th) , Robert called to let me know that she had passed away and I needed to come down. (Please, any family out there, don't ever put it on an inlaw to be your power of attorney, or whatever, it makes it so much more difficult on the child that has to deal with everthing) I left the kids in the care of my best friends and headed, once again, to Logan. We didn't tell the kids that grandma died until we came back home so they could deal with her death with us and not by themselves. I know my friends would have done everything they could have to make their hurt go away, but that was not their responsability. (Thank you Nikki, Marie and Dan!)
We got home, school ended, baby sitters lined up, Tae Kwon Do started (3nights a week!), Relay for Life was Friday night to Saturday morning - yes, I spent the night, yes I actually slept. I love Relay. Then Saturday morning from 9 to 4pm was Cub Scout Day Camp. Being Den leader and Gabe's mom I couldn't get out of it...
I am tired and I want my normal life back. Tomorrow the EPA comes to audit my lab. Being in Sample Receiving, I am also being audited. Not looking forward to that! We are still waiting to find out when we will go to the U of U to figure out what is going on with Robert.
Oh, I forgot, While we were dealing with Robert's mom, Dan, his brother, drove out his 4Runner so Robert could have a vehicle since some girl felt the need to not pay attention to the road and ran into the purple beast flipping it and Robert and totalling the truck. So Dan and Robert went to logan together when the kids and I went to Moccasin for my Aunt's funeral. They had to clear out and clean out the apartment and settle stuff for funeral stuff. They worked so hard that Dan ended up back in the hospital with another infection and ended up going hom the day their mom died.
Can I have some sanity please?!
2 comments:
You sound a lot busier when you write it all dwn then when you tell me about it. I guess it has been a little overwhelming. Hopefully, life will slow down and you can catch your breath. I feel overwhelmed with work and school and the kids and Andy and all the other things piled on top, but you certainly put my life into perspective. Love you.
Here is a cup of sanity u. Perhaps a pitcher, U, would do you more good.
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